Kali Meister

psychic, channel, teacher and coach, empath, author, spiritual healer, tarot reader, reiki master, public speaker, and laughter yoga instructor

Cancer

Cancer: The Prophet and Teacher

Element: Water

Ruling Planet: Moon

Symbol: Crab

Governed by: Chest 

Lucky Day: Monday

Color: White

Best Locations: Any natural body of water

Traits: Sensitive, Protective, and Mothering

 

I am getting the opportunity to watch a little cancer girl grow into a adorable tween. And, she is very cancer. These folks are the most sensitive people you will ever meet—she is a flirtatious sweet sensitive cuddle monster. Cancer’s emotions run very deep and they are genuine in how they feel about things. They are incredibly loving and those born under this sign are patron saints and advocates for the protection of the weak and downtrodden. They love animals and usually have at least one pet. In fact, they sometimes collect animals. They have so much heart—they are ruled by their chests. When thinking of what it is like to be a cancer just think of their symbol the crab. Crabs have tough shells that guard an incredibly soft interior, and if you poke at a crab long enough they will skitter off sideways—understand the sideways motion is because they will never attack, but they will also never back down. A sideways angle suits them just fine. 

Security is very important to cancer people. They require stability in their lives and can actually come off as fickle and inconsistent when they do not feel completely secure.  They need a space of their own to feel complete in the world and their homes are their castles--especially their bedrooms. Their bedrooms need to be places of calm solitude. They like a minimalist decor with shades of ocean and beach colors. They are people who will always be drawn to water because they are homebodies at heart and water is their element. If you want to make one adore you get them one of those white noise sound machines that plays hours of ocean waves. Keeping them calm is of high priority because they can have issues with fear and cling to bad situations thinking their love and support can change everything for the better. It is because of this that cancer can fall victim to stress-based illnesses that can turn into longterm battles for the cancer. 

On that note, the thing that cancers must overcome is resentment. And, this sign holds on to a grudge like nobody you will ever meet. The odd thing about these grudges is you may have no idea you have hurt the cancer until weeks, months, or even years later. Example: One Monday in May you forgot you scheduled lunch with them. They won’t say a word about it in the moment. They might be a tad cold or aloof for awhile, but they more than likely will not confront the issue in the moment. It is only after a lot of sideways motion that they will snap at something. It will be a random Sunday in December and you will have had a great time with them when suddenly they get sullen and with great pain they tell you that you have hurt their feelings... Deeply. You try to think of what you have done because the day has been perfect. Then they tell you how badly it hurt them when you forgot the lunch you planned with them seven months earlier. Why they didn’t address this issue seven months ago is beyond your understanding unless you are a cancer, also. Just understand that they are only telling you now because they have skittered sideways long enough to the point that they feel safe to address the issue with you now in a time where the heat of the moment will not turn violent or aggressive. Being safe is important to cancer, which is why it will feel odd they bring up past grievances much later when everything seems to be going positively, but cancer must feel that they can be sure of you and that there will be no heat of the moment confrontation. Confrontation is something that scares cancers. They have no place in their lives for violence. Also, imagine if they seem that upset seven months later how deep those emotions must have run for them seven months ago. 

If you can be patient with their tender hearts you will have someone in your life who will never forget your birthday, always knows exactly what makes you happy, and is the one person who will always come over and take care of you when you are sick. They can be the best friend you will ever have because it truly brings them pleasure to make you happy and often your smile is all the thanks that they need.  

Gemini

Gemini: The Artist and Inventor

Element: Air

Ruling Planet: Mercury

Symbol: The Twins

Governed by: Arms, Shoulders, and Nervous System

Lucky Day: Wednesday

Colors: Yellow, Silver, and Gold

Best Location: Beaches

Traits: Restless, Changeable, and Exuberant

 

I know Gemini very well. My mother, stepmother, and stepfather are all Gemini…imagine my poor Taurus soul with all that need for change (it wasn’t easy). This sign is incredibly independent and needs change like they need oxygen. I would always joke with my brother on our way home from school making bets on how mom had rearranged the furniture in the house, which happened at least once a month. We were lucky if it was just the living room furniture because she had actually exchanged our bedrooms once. We would even come home to find the house packed and we’d be moving to another home or town even. Just know that Gemini require a lot of freedom and do not do well living by others’ imposed ideas and standards.

Focus is a lifelong issue with Gemini and trying to get them to focus on one topic, thing, or person, can be like trying to silence a screaming howler monkey. And, if you don’t like sharing their attention with 20 other things than you might find Gemini unsettling and downright rude. Ironically, being thought of as rude would hurt Gemini deeply because they think their ability to have their attention everywhere is a form of loving—like they are spreading their love around. They would rather give all a little than think they missed a person or that someone fell through the cracks, but often they can leave those close to them feeling looked over and slighted.

The Gemini brain works much quicker than any other sign in the zodiac. This sign is literally two to five steps ahead of everyone else in the room. Because Gemini’s brain is quick they can re-direct events they see unfolding if they like. They don’t do this often because they have no interest in being Henry Higgins—they will not manipulate people. They do like to see things go smoothly, but with some flare. How much flare depends on how bored they are in the moment, though they bore easily.

There are no people more kind, gentle, and courteous than Gemini. These characteristics make them very magnetic to people. They take great pride in their family and their accomplishments. They will often neglect themselves in order to assist others, much to the chagrin of their close family.

The issue with Gemini is that they can be superficial because they are far more interested with what is on the surface of the situation and have little care about what motivates the actions below the surface. Gemini often judge a person by the way the person treats them. This can lead Gemini to have wrong impressions of people and can cause problems in close family and friend relationships. Gemini feels discouragement and moodiness although they never allow this to be seen by anyone but their intimate partners and family. Gemini usually wants everyone to think that they are always happy and doing wonderfully and stress never affects them, but those close to them know that they can be bundles of stress and negativity.

The thing that is the paradox about Gemini is though they are known for their duality they are truly seeking a soulmate. They are seeking this mysterious other half of themselves that they have created in their own duality to keep them company and occupied until “the one” comes along. Few people listening to a confident Gemini talk with that quicksilver charm would ever imagine that the inner Gemini is often feeling desperately alone and lost.

Gemini is the sign of some of the sexiest people who are not only good looking, but are also intriguing in their character and personalities. Perfect examples of this are Angelina Jolie, Johnny Depp, and Marilyn Monroe. Gemini are incredible story tellers and are truly aroused by story. If you find that difficult to believe be aware that Marquis De Sade was a Gemini. But, beware that a lot of that talk is not always backed up with action. Gemini folk live so much in their heads that they can be baffled by more physical signs like Taurus, Capricorn, and Aries. They will feel a kinship in communication with Virgo because they are both ruled by Mercury, but Virgo’s need for stability and Gemini’s need for freedom will eventually put a wedge between the two. Gemini do well with other Gemini, Libra, Leo, and Sagittarius who also crave freedom like Gemini.

My Declaration

I put off writing this blog for a long time. I’m going to write about something those I love most in this world and many of my clients already know about me. As much as I admire many others who have my gifts, I’m not at a place yet where I feel comfortable walking up to strangers and sharing my gifts with them. I have battled my gifts for years. I have prayed, meditated upon, and spoken at length with the Universe and others who have similar gifts like mine. This all being said, I’m now coming out publicly. I feel to keep my gifts, which I know have helped hundreds if not thousands of people, I must fully embrace them and be out without fear of judgment. I must be certain in my knowing who I am. So, here it goes: My name is Kali, and I see—and sometimes hear—spirits of people who have died, animals that have died, and guides and what are possibly angels.

 

There is a sense of relief in sharing this publicly. However, there is also a level of fear I am working through. As an academic I often fear how this will influence how I’m perceived by possible employers. Honestly, at this point I can handle the people who cannot believe me and want to argue what I do. I actually understand the doubt they have. I sometimes battle with myself in the midst of seeing what I see. Having these abilities has offered me as much joy as it has difficulties. I had my heart broken by an ex-fiancé because he was incredibly judgmental of my skills. The irony of this breakup is that while we were together, I woke from a dream wanting to know why Karen didn’t want he and I together. I wanted to know who she was and why she made me feel so jealous. He had mentioned to me when we first started dating that his mother had died of cancer many years before, but he never told me her name. He only referred to her as his mother. I now understand this dream was a lesson in listening I had to learn. My jealousy of her stemmed from her telling me in that dream that I was not right for her son. I needed to let go of him. I was selfish, though, and hung on to him even as he slipped off the wagon into the depths of his addiction. I was completely unable to help him, and understood why this spirit of his mother Karen wanted to tell me that he and I were not meant to be together. I learn from these spirits and I know that is partially why I see and hear what I do.

 

Please understand that EVERYONE has this ability. The question is how open we are to it and how we live in a way that is honest to who we are meant to be. We are all energy. I read about energy, in effort to understand my being an empath and seer. I’m not a scientist, but I’m so fascinated by kinetic and potential energy and string theory and how they relate to the everyday living of human experience in regard to emotion and what we perceive. I must admit that I’m not sure what I’m writing will make any sense to anyone outside of myself. I just know that there are things beyond our knowing. I also know that the sooner we let go of the idea that certain types of resistance are positive, and that unhappiness and fear are natural states of living, we will be closer to the lives we were designed to live. I’m not perfect at living this message yet. I’m still learning. But I’m listening to the signs around me and how I feel in the moment and how I am communicating my needs to the Universe. My most difficult challenge is letting go of the idea that I have to have a death grip on my life. That is a perfect way of putting it: Many people feel the need to have a death grip on living.

 

Many people fear what is after this life. We have created theories on the afterlife. I wish I could tell people what happens after we die. I cannot do that. I can only interpret what I hear and see from the spirits and what they can explain to me with my level of knowing. In the thirty-plus years I’ve been able to see and hear, there are some universal truths that all spirits express. They tell me that, in the end, death is not as big a deal as the living make it out to be. If you are scoffing as you read this I understand, but I hope you will keep reading. What they always say is that the suffering and collateral damage they leave in the wake of their dying is not something they condone because it is created by the living. “Condone” is the only word that makes sense here, because after death there is no suffering, sadness, shame, or anger. These are strictly emotions of the living that are created out of fear and selfishness. These spirits have higher work that is beyond our understanding and the living must become open to the knowledge that those who are dead are not gone. These spirits are around us in so many ways, but they are not as tangible to us as they were when they were alive. The huge message they give is that they no longer judge, because judgment is a creation of the living, based in a place of fear. What we must learn is that we must know the difference between discernment and judgment, because to judge is the path to living a life crippled by fear.

 

What people like myself who see and hear possess is a different level of knowing, connected to a higher understanding of discernment. This discernment has less to do with knowledge than it has to do with wisdom. Knowledge is fact created through critical thinking to guide civilizations. Wisdom is the ethics and morals that are gained through experiences. Where this gets dicey is that knowledge and wisdom do have a kindred relationship, because in truth we as a civilization define what is reality, and reality is where our concepts of knowledge and wisdom come from. For some reason, the present day is a time when the need for an understanding of subjective and objective and knowledge and wisdom is dire, because our perception is skewed. This is why I know I was called to teaching. This is also why teaching is so critically judged by those who do not have the knowledge to be critical. But understand this: We are all teachers. We all have gifts to share to heal the damage that we have all created in this civilization—and we are all responsible for this damage, so we are all responsible for this recovery. The key to the recovery is our focusing our individual energies and effort, to stop wasting our collective energies.

 

So, what does any of this have to do with seeing and hearing spirits? Part of the energy we waste is given to the pursuit of pain focused on the loss of the people we loved in this life. This is, in fact, a hard lesson for me because I lost my father when he was just barely forty years old. I miss the potential of what we could have had, because what we had until he died was disappointing. When I receive spiritual work from others with gifts, they tell me that the issues I have with the loss of my father are hindering my self-growth, but I feel that even in writing this I’m doing that recovery work.

 

Those who are resistant to belief in what I do love nothing more than to bring up why it is I can talk with the dead but I can’t talk with my dead father. It doesn’t work like that. My understanding is I can’t see him because my need to see him is selfish, which is, again, as I mentioned above, a part of the fear that is controlling so many of us. I’m trying to let go and understand that he is there for me, and to not be sad about that. It’s difficult sometimes, but I feel the benefits of it everyday, because the less time I focus on his loss, the more time I can focus on the potential of what I have, and I have so much potential…we all do. I have seen my father briefly, and it was in times when I was so focused on other things outside of my selfish need to see him. He usually vanishes quickly because the minute I see him, that selfish and childish need in me comes immediately to the surface. At this point I see it as a comical irony, which I think is a step closer to letting go.

 

What do I see…and hear?

 

I have many folks who have witnessed and can attest to what I see. I’ve seen and described things for classes in Pennsylvania, for a school for the deaf in Knoxville, for various groups in East Tennessee and Texas, for friends and family, and for clients. I’ve seen things that I would have no possible way of knowing. I’ve seen things that people have disbelieved and then discovered through research was true. One story I remember vividly was guest lecturing live to my dear friend Maria’s “Haunted Pennsylvania” class. I usually do these classes via Skype. It was held in a different room on a different part of campus than usual. Once I opened my vision—and I can tune it in and out now—I saw in the back left corner of the classroom a woman suspended and hanging by her neck from a rope. Did this freak me out? It used to, but now I understand that it is just a print of energy left in the space. It’s not even really that person because what got them to that point is a creation of this world and that is not where they are anymore. That is the best explanation I can offer. I finally told the class what I was seeing. Maria had no idea what it was in the moment, but later discovered that a woman who resided in a building near there had in fact hung herself from the outside of the building. Maria is used to this in me. She too has so many of her own gifts. When we were in graduate school together I told her that the stranger she had just met on her way to campus was her future husband and that she would be pregnant at graduation. She married him between our second and third semesters and was nearly eight months pregnant when she gave her graduation speech.

 

I could write so much about my experiences with Maria’s students, many of whom I’m still friends with. My favorite was a young woman who walked in front of the camera during my Skype guest lecture. I loudly heard a male voice tell me to stop her and tell her that her father is so thrilled she wears his necklace. He wanted me to acknowledge it and tell her that he sends her so much love and to know that she is surrounded by his love. I told her this and she immediately burst into loud sobbing. She reached inside the neck of her high collared sweater and pulled out a rather large gold chain necklace. I remember hearing the class gasp when she told me her father had died the year before, and that she had worn the necklace every day since he died because it makes her feel connected to him. I cried. Even I’m blown away when I get so close to the connection people I have never met before have with their loved ones they have lost. I believe part of why I cry is to help release the pain the loss of that person holds for the living. I will say, however, that is only a theory.

 

My family has these gifts and have for generations. It makes for interesting family gatherings. I remember the Christmas Eve my mother witnessed my niece and me both seeing her grandfather in a large wall mirror. My mother was sitting at the table when she saw it happen. Apparently, my niece and I both stopped in our tracks in unison, intently staring into the mirror, then simultaneously we both turned to look behind us for someone who was not there. She immediately asked us what we had seen. We were not aware we had both seen the same image in the mirror. She questioned us, and after we both confirmed we had in fact seen the same image, my mother went into her bedroom and brought back an old sepia-tone photo of her grandfather. My niece and I both confirmed seeing the exact same person in the mirror. Who we saw was a thin aging trickster of a man with slick dark hair that hung in front of his right eye as he tipped a hat at us and winked his incredibly blue left eye. Then he was gone. I remember thinking someone was in the room, which was why I turned around. Apparently that was my niece’s exact thought because she also turned, hoping to catch the image we both saw in the mirror. My mother told us that night that Christmas Eve was her grandfather’s favorite holiday and he would come over to her house and have dinner. She told us he would always tip his fedora and wink at her before he vanished out into the cold Missouri night. I had not known this until that night, and I’m grateful for this experience because it helped relieve much relationship stress between my mother and me.

 

I know what I do helps people. I see the relief they experience when I can see or hear someone they have lost. I also see the guidance and ease of spirit my tarot, palm, and automatic writing bring people. For this I’m incredibly grateful, although it has taken me a while to get to this place. I am very happy where I am, and I’m opening myself up to all the gifts I feel the Universe has to offer me. I know I have been gifted with a high level of strength and resilience and an ability to experience true empathy for the people around me. I am blessed. We all are blessed.